It's all about Perception!

One of the greatest lessons I'm learning is about the problem of perception.  Many of us have people in our lives who are difficult.  We log onto FB and complain about so-and-so and bitch and bitch and bitch to our hearts content.  BUT, does that actually change anything?  No.  Does it make us feel better?  For a little while.  Of course we like having our friends and family take our sides in any situation.  But the problem is, for all the people in the world who might agree with you, who might say, "YES, we agree!  He/She is a total ass and you are in the right!" it STILL DOESN'T CHANGE THE PROBLEM!!! 

So, ask yourself this, am I ready to change this situation or do I want to continue to sit on my pity pot and moan? 

If you are ready to create a change the very first thing you must do is change yourself.  There is no way around this.  You can try to force a change upon someone (whether you love them or hate them) and you will go blue in the face holding your breath.  There is no way to change another person!  NONE!  ...but...

If you can learn to change yourself, your perception of so-and-so, how you respond and react to their continued behaviors, (get this!) THEY CAN'T HELP BUT CHANGE!!!

Yes, the secret to changing all of your relationships is to first change how you see it.  Really!  Think about it.  If you approach someone in anger, trying to force your will upon them, do you really think they're just going to bow down to you and say "Oh, yes, you are absolutely right!  I am wrong.  I will do it your way."?  Not likely.  I know damned well I wouldn't!
But, if you can look at this person and see them as (and I KNOW you're not going to like this!) a Divine soul with every right to live their experience in their way, and (sorry again!) BLESS them instead of curse them, they will not be able to resist.  Why?

Well, when you are at peace with another your vibrating at a higher level.  When you are angry and hurtful you are vibrating at a lower level.  The other person will only match your vibration.  You can't ever expect them to respond at a higher vibration than you are willing to give out... unless, of course, they were a Saint!
But once you raise your vibration they have to raise theirs in order to meet you at your level.  They can not continue to fight and argue if you are litterally above fighting and arguing!  So where are you in this?  How are you vibrating?  Are you giving off anger or acceptance? 

There is a very simple way to overcome your own lower vibes.  Simply state, over and over, "I salute the Divinity in you."  And, mean it!  This is not giving them permission to walk all over you, nor does it say you allow them to treat you ill, it simply means, I see the Divine in you and I respect your higher self.  It will help them to rise to their own higher vibrations.  Sometimes it's hard to see our way to our own higher thoughts when someone keeps pulling us back down into our earthy minds and limited thinking.  When you rise above, they rise above.  But you've got to go first. 

There are so many people I know who would benefit from this if they chose to use it.  How others treat us, from bosses, to fellow employees, to neighbors, friends and loved ones, all can benefit from a change in how you see them.  It's all about perception.